Quick Links
Skip to main contentSkip to navigation
Main Navigation


Ajax Loading Image


A Letter to Parents

Story image 1_0

Dear Parents:

As you now know, our school and community have lost a treasured member, Mr. Nate Metschke, band director. Here are a few ideas that may help in talking to your child.

In addition to the need for information that is clear and understandable, it is necessary for your child to be able to express his/her feelings and have them recognized. Encourage your child to talk with the assurance that all feelings are okay; help your child feel supported by listening carefully and answering questions honestly. When we hear of another’s death, our own feelings about death often surface. Remember that these feelings may focus on the person who has recently died, someone who died previously, an impending death, or anxiety about death in general.

When faced with the death of someone close to them, children may go through stages of grief. These stages can come and go in cycles and not follow a specific order. Your child may: appear unaffected, ask questions about the death repeatedly, be angry or aggressive, be withdrawn or moody, be sad or depressed, become fearful or scared, and/or have difficulty sleeping or eating. Do not be afraid to express your feelings of sadness. Encourage your child to reminisce about his/her experiences with Mr. Metschke.

We have shared information with your children and have had discussions with band students. Counselors, teachers, and other support staff have been available and will continue to be available to students, teachers and parents. Please contact the school if you have any questions or concerns.


Neligh-Oakdale Crisis Team

Online resources: